Barack Obama and Dating

On my expert.com column, it comes up more than you might imagine

• I’m in love with my mother’s doctor.  He seems to like me, we talk a lot, but what can I do to get him to ask me out.
• I’m in love with my boss.  What should I do?
• My lawyer has got my head spinning.  Should I ask him out.
• I think my dentist is interested in me.  I want to ask him out, but I’m not sure how to do it.

Ahh, love in the workplace … love or ’something else’ – but it remains one of the major ways we get to meet members of the opposite sex, so here are three little tales:

1. My client Janissa went to a lawyer to file for divorce.  On the second appointment, the lawyer announced that he was referring her to another lawyer, that he wanted to date her.  
2. Shetha went to a psychologist for counseling about her marriage, the death of her father and other matters.  The psychologist  said he was falling in love with her and was going to refer her to another psychologist. 
3. About the Obamas:  “It was at the end of her first year as an associate at the law firm that she [Michelle] had been assigned to mentor Obama. In a now famous story, she at first refused to date him, feeling their work relationship would make a romance improper. But Obama’s courtship …”  This is from time.com and you can read the rest of the article here.

If the man is interested in you, no matter what the situation, no matter how “shy” you think he is, no matter, no matter … he will make his move, he will take action. 

Of course “courtship” is the big concept here.  I have another client whom I coached, whose boss simply started sleeping with her, while married to his wife.  NOT!

photo: wikipedia commons, author vargas 2040