A while ago we talked about what men don’t like to talk about:  past relationships, other dates, celebrities, religion, politics, antiques, money, fashion, gardening and marriage.

A comment to the blog was – what DO you talk about then.

Well, let’s have a little humor here, and say about HIM and about GUY THINGS?

What’s not on that list?

1.  Him

2.  Work

3.  Sports

4.  Movies

5.  Books

6.  Pets

7.  The weather

8.  Travel (not mentioning with whom, if with another date)

9.  History – most me have a special interest in history, particularly things like the Civil War, or World War II

Can YOU talk about these things?  Well men like to talk – period – so you can listen and ask intelligent questions.

It takes some feminine ingenuity, but you’ve got it.  Call me for some tips.  Coaching before you go out on that special date can calm your nerves, and prepare you to shine!

Email me at sdunn@susandunn.cc for an appointment.

How to Stay Safe When Dating

You never know … so here are some sites that can help you find out more about the many or woman you’re considering meeting or dating.

PUBLIC RECORDS BY NAME

REVERSE PHONE SEARCH

REVERSE ADDRESS DIRECTORY LOOKUP

CHECK, CRIMINAL RECORDS

And one of my favorites – THE VALUE OF THEIR HOUSE.  This can tell you so much about the man or woman you are considering dating.

For dating coaching, contact me at sdunn@susandunn.cc .  Individual coaching, seminars in Dallas area.  I can help you eliminate the liars, cheats and uindesireables.

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Dating Coach Nominated Volunteer of the Month

Susan Dunn, The Dating Coach – I volunteer on allexperts site to give advice on dating matters.  I recently answered a woman’s question about why she couldn’t “keep” men, although she had no trouble attracting them.  She wanted to know “What am I doing wrong?  What can I do?”  Here is the rating she gave me in dating coaching:

For Susan Dunn, Dating Coach

knowledgeability – 10
helpfulness – 10
timeliness – 10
politeness – 10

Comment – Those 10’s are not accidents. I see the boxes and I’m giving her 10’s for all of it. Not only did she answer me fast and accurate but she gave me ideas I never even thought of or forgot to write about. She doesn’t sugar coat. That puts a film on things that makes it impossible to learn. Excellent expert you have here.

I was also nominated as volunteer of the month.

I am here to help YOU with your dating.  It is true, I don’t sugar coat.  I want you to learn — from all my years of experience and research.  I can’t say enough how HARD dating is these days. 

Let me by your guide.  Email me at sdunn@susandunn.cc or call me at 817-741-7223 and let talk about how to get this going for you. 

Dating? Here’s what Guys DON’T like to talk about

Dating Tips from the Dating Coach

According to plentyoffish, there are the top 10 things men don’t like to talk about.  Ready?

1. Past relationships
2. Other dates
3. Celebrities
4. Religion
5. Politics
6. Antiques
7. Money
8. Fashion
9. Gardening
10. Marriage

Dating Coach – 817-734-1471.  By phone, in-person and by email.  Call me for a free consultation and lets discuss options.

DALLAS DATING FOR SUCCESS SEMINAR, Sat., October 18, 10 am to 5 pm
$249; 10% discount if your register and pay by October 1.

Come get the scoop on dating!  I’ve listened to thousands of dating men and women.

Guys, Find YOUR Place

DATING COACH – OUT FOR DINNER

When you’re dating, you need to have a place where you feel comfortable taking a lady to dinner.  (I’m assuming if you’re the lunch-at-Starbucks kind, you already have that under control.)

I know my blog readers (and clients) live all over the world, so this is just an example.  This is the restaurant where I take clients, out-of-town guests, coaches I’m training, and anyone to discuss business.  If I were a man, it is also where I would take someone for a first date.

It’s Mezza Luna in the Dallas area (Keller)

 

Entrance

Where you are comfortable is totally a personal thing.  I like Mezza Luna because:

1.  It’s convenient to where I live and to DFW

2.  The food is excellent but affordable, with nice selection, not all Italian

3.  Understated.  Doesn’t “shout” anything.

4.  Mr Mena is usually around to greet me and my guests

5. WHITE TABLECLOTHS (fresh flowers and small white andle)

6.  Understated, classy decor – not too much, not too little.  Put a Rossetti on your wall and you own me.  Not to mention the touches like black ceiling, crown molding, those drapes …

7.  NOT A FRANCHISE.  I want it to be rememberable.

8.  Right noise level.

9.  Private dining room option.

10. Two nice waiting areas

11.  Easy.  Easy to find, easy to park, no hassle

ABOUT THAT PERFECT DATING RESTAURANT

It’s up to you!  Take the time to “do your homework.”  Find the place where you want to take that special lady on a dinner date, where YOU feel comfortable.  That will be one less thing to worry about!  Believe me, finding your venue sets the stage for the rest of it.

Then call me and lets get you started dating more effectively.  817-734-1471.

Dating coaching in-person (Dallas area), by phone and by email.  Call me for a free consultation and lets discuss options.

DALLAS DATING FOR SUCCESS SEMINAR, Saturday, October 18, 10 am – 5 pm.  10% discount if you register by October 1.  Email sdunn@susandunn.cc .  $249 per peron. 

Good Date?

“If you can learn who to avoid and who to seek out, that’s a lot easier than continually getting hurt”

If only people had this skill.  It’s particularly important for dating.  That’s why there’s DATING COACHING to help you.

The fascinating article entitled FRIEND OR FOE, CROWS NEVER FORGET A FACE, IT SEEMS from the NY Times, ends:

Dr. McGowan and Dr. Marzluff believe that this ability gives crows and their brethren an evolutionary edge. “If you can learn who to avoid and who to seek out, that’s a lot easier than continually getting hurt,” Dr. Marzluff said. “I think it allows these animals to survive with us — and take advantage of us — in a much safer, more effective way.”

 

So how can you tell from an online profile or a first date, who to avoid and who to seek out?

 

Let me be your Dating Coach.  

Take THE EQ COURSE and get the edge. 

First Session Free

These are tough economic times.  They also appear to be tough dating times.  Not a lot of action going on.

But let me tell you, from years of experience at this, as “the holidays” approach, you better be ready for action, and to take action.

When you sign up for dating coaching with me, your first session is ABSOLUTELY FREE.  You will also receive “The Protocol,” a FREE assessment of your current online profile, and a FREE copy of my ebook DATING STRATEGIES THAT WORK.

Email me and mention these specials and lets get to work.  The holidays are coming.

GET READY, GET SET ……….. GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

Taking action, being prepared, and sticking with it are important parts of dating.  sdunn@susandunn.cc

Barack Obama and Dating

On my expert.com column, it comes up more than you might imagine

• I’m in love with my mother’s doctor.  He seems to like me, we talk a lot, but what can I do to get him to ask me out.
• I’m in love with my boss.  What should I do?
• My lawyer has got my head spinning.  Should I ask him out.
• I think my dentist is interested in me.  I want to ask him out, but I’m not sure how to do it.

Ahh, love in the workplace … love or ’something else’ – but it remains one of the major ways we get to meet members of the opposite sex, so here are three little tales:

1. My client Janissa went to a lawyer to file for divorce.  On the second appointment, the lawyer announced that he was referring her to another lawyer, that he wanted to date her.  
2. Shetha went to a psychologist for counseling about her marriage, the death of her father and other matters.  The psychologist  said he was falling in love with her and was going to refer her to another psychologist. 
3. About the Obamas:  “It was at the end of her first year as an associate at the law firm that she [Michelle] had been assigned to mentor Obama. In a now famous story, she at first refused to date him, feeling their work relationship would make a romance improper. But Obama’s courtship …”  This is from time.com and you can read the rest of the article here.

If the man is interested in you, no matter what the situation, no matter how “shy” you think he is, no matter, no matter … he will make his move, he will take action. 

Of course “courtship” is the big concept here.  I have another client whom I coached, whose boss simply started sleeping with her, while married to his wife.  NOT!

photo: wikipedia commons, author vargas 2040

To Get Romance You Have to Be Intensely Practical

dating

My dating coaching has my own special style and touch, but there’s one thing for sure: it is very practical and it covers the fundamentals.  In my seminars (next one, Sat., Oct. 18th in Dallas – email me for info) private coaching (in-person, phone and email), we cover the “rules” — the things that work and the things that don’t work.  There’s a different set for each gender, but some are in common.

Here are just a few that apply to anyone who truly wants to find their partner:

1. You have to have a strategy, a plan.  I work with you individually on this.  You may live on a farm in Idaho, or you may live in a penthouse in New York, or on Perdido Bay in Alabama.  But wherever you live there are places to meet members of the opposite sex, and there is also the Internet.
2. You must get active.  You must put consistent effort into it.  No matter where you live, no one is going to come and knock on your door and say, “Here I am.”
3. You must persevere.  Know that word?  It means you don’t give up.  It’s already taken too long, or you wouldn’t be looking for dating coaching, but once you find that person, you will forget all about how long it took; except that you’ll value them even more.  Don’t go out once or twice, or join one Internet site for 6 months and then give up.  I won’t let you! 
4. Get yourself in shape!  (This includes dating coaching for the particulars.)  If you need a new haircut, a new wardrobe, to lose a few pounds, to clean out your car, or spruce up your house/apartment, do it!  Same with attitude.  Ask yourself, “Would you date you if you were someone else??”
5. Cut people some slack.  In most cases an email or two or a date or two is not enough to really get to know someone.  The whole thing is to get to know the other person – over time and in different circumstances.  Anyone who tells you they don’t get nervous is lying.  Remember – I’ve coached  and listened to hundreds of people. 
6. On the other hand, there are some you will want to, and should, eliminate immediately.  I will teach you how to recognize these.  When it happens, move on.  And don’t dwell if someone you liked doesn’t return the favor.  Move on!!
7. Remember your manners.  If you need to brush up on your social graces and etiquette, we will.  They work.  Call to confirm dates.  Show up on time.  Apologize if you must cancel.  Be polite.  Use nice language.  You only get one chance to make a first impression.
8. Be fun, but watch the humor.  Humor is very tricky.  Get to know the person a little bit first or sure enough you’ll tell a joke about a dumb Black Lab, and they’ll own and love one (for instance).
9. Keep the conversation give-and-take.  Don’t talk about yourself the whole time.  (Some people tend to do this when they get nervous.)  Ask the other person questions.  Listen actively.  Show an interest in their lives and what they’re talking about.
10. Exes are “ex” or you’re not ready to be dating.

Most of all, please don’t make that first date like a job interview or a deposition!!